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Beginners Guide: How To Protect Your Child From Inappropriate Content October 17 2015, 0 Comments

It never occurred to me that I would be writing about how to protect my child from my device. The fascinating truth is that my tool hurt him and took his innocence away and sparked a curiosity he did not even know he had.

I thought my child was protected from Porn, he only ever searched “Dino’s with beeg teeth” and “Cute Pupies” what could go wrong and besides those insane videos are for over 18’s and you have to prove that you are over 18. Right? Oh so very wrong!

My son and I were having a casual conversation about what the cleverest dinosaur was, when I said: “let’s google it”. When I opened the Ipad I was horrified to find the search “show me naked bobes” at first I was impressed that he knew how to spell naked and horrified that he could not spell boobs, after all I am known as the boob lady. Why I knew my son had no idea what was happening was that the open windows were still open and the topics he had clicked on had titles I could not even spell. I scrambled through the history hoping not to find any more, thankfully my fear had stopped at the open pages. My son was mortified when I asked him, the shame was written all over his face. I promised I would never allow my children to feel shame for something that is natural and beautiful, but this was brutal. This was not his fault it was mine.

So why was my child left unsupervised? Well that is a topic for another day but let's just say that paying someone to entertain and intellectually stimulate my children did not result in outside play and mind puzzles.

The bottom line is that our children will at some stage be subjected to this kind of show and tell, whether this is in your home or at a friend’s home. Our children are part of a generation that will not survive without a device connecting them to the world of opportunity, whether it be connecting them to food to feed them or fashion to clothe them or information to educate them, taking the device away will stunt their growth and make them stupid. Yes like me!

So arm yourself with restrictions. This tutorial is based on the fact that my children do not have their own devices and use mine.  This is also only for a IOS products.

Let’s get started

Go to your Settings and select General

In General select Restrictions. Restrictions are off as a default setting, I would check this after any software updates.

 

Select Enable Restrictions, at this stage it will prompt you for a password, please change this to a password only you know. Remember your 8 year is more experienced at this than you, he will figure it out in about two seconds even if it took you a whole day to work this out.

You are not done yet scroll down and select Websites.

Select Limit Adult content. In my case I had to allow for my own website because I display ladies with beautiful underwear which may be blocked by my own restrictions. After all this is my device!

Go back to Allowed Content and change your country to South Africa. Select your movie preference for your child by selecting Movies

Then change your rating according to your children’s ages.

You can change all sorts of Restrictions here so play around.

Now go and test it.

Perhaps I was naïve to think that my children were protected because they were being supervised, but I was actually responsible by having an unrestricted device and by being stupid. It is responsible to question the parents of the children your child may visit as you would about the pool net or a vicious dog. Become Restriction Savvy remember your children are not looking for it, it finds them and then the curiosity is addictive. 

No go and carry on being good parents.

 


My Version Of Sexy March 31 2014, 0 Comments

Growing up I always wondered why my small body was blessed with the breasts I was blessed with. I found my form anything but sexy contrary to what I should’ve felt based on the definition of sexy. My, then DD’s were anything but while my 30 clothing size was coveted by most.

Finding my first fitting bra was anything but sexy and yet I felt complete. My confidence soared and I started to feel “normal” again. Exercise became part of my day again and while I could not wear skinny strapped outfits I felt quite, well, “sexy”.

It was not until I was confronted with my “wedding night” attire that I realised my options were limited. My “sexy” lingerie was not so “sexy” after all. Please do not misunderstand me I found something quite suitable in my fiancé (soon to be husband’s) favourite colour, blue with a decadent black lace detail and a scandalous thong. Just looking at the pair made me so excited to see his face when I revealed the two piece on my “ wedding ready” toned body.

Why I insist that this was not sexy is because no matter how beautiful the set was it did not fit me. There was a heinous side boob that was not only unsightly but also terribly uncomfortable as my underwire poked the lump of breast under my arm. This was an item I had purchased from a corsetiere who incidentally altered my strapless bra for my wedding dress to perfection. It seems if you are going to purchase lingerie it need not fit because the purpose is to have it on for as little as possible. The point being that no matter how beautiful or horrendously expensive it was, I felt quite fat and booby in it.

I never wore the two piece despite trying on many other occasions to ignore the lack of support or very obvious misplaced wire. Every time I came across it in my underwear I would be reminded of the disappointment I felt (please take careful note that this was my disappointment only as the very obvious lack of underwear yielded an appreciated return on investment in his facial expression).

Underwear is not “sexy”. How you feel in underwear is what makes it sexy. This is why it is so important to wear underwear that makes the most of what you have. Unmanaged breasts will make you feel overweight and clumsy, while perfectly supported breasts give you confidence to strut around in just your underwear.

If you feel self-conscience when you should feel confident try changing your bra size or even better treat yourself to a professional fitting. Who knows, maybe changing the way women feel about themselves is just the correct size away.