11 Signs That Your Daughter May Be Taking Strain With Her Breasts May 19 2014, 1 Comment
Mothers often ask us when they should bring their daughters in for their first professional fitting. I find it difficult to put a timeline to this milestone because it is entirely dependent on the developing child.
You may find that your daughter has little or no breast tissue yet shows a keen interest in finding a bra, or you may find that your daughter has developed rather quickly but she has no interest, in fact the whole situation repulses her. There are so many psychological factors to consider that we will discuss in later blogs.
I would like to touch on what signs you can look out for that may indicate that your daughter is having a hard time accepting her development.
It’s hard to understand why girls suddenly find it difficult to accept the size of their breasts. As I child I could not wait to wear a bra, however when my breasts eventually grew to the very normal size they were I found it very difficult to accept.
These are the signs we see when we consult with young ladies from 11 years of age to about 18 years of age.
- Jerseys in summer: most moms may feel that their daughters are going through a "phase” it’s a phase of covering and hopefully no one will notice and they do not grow out of this. A good supportive bra will give them a sense of control and they don’t have to worry about the very obvious movement that gains attention
- If your daughter starts taking on an androgynous look and tends towards a more masculine wardrobe. This may be due to a fashion trend as well or just a complete love of men’s fashion, however it is one of the factors we look at.
- Layering of clothing: usually more than one bra or more than one “support” top.
- If your daughter uses tops that cause some form of compression under their clothing
- If your daughter played sport and now no longer does or is not enthusiastic about it: Some girls are teased, some girls just feel very uncomfortable and then there are girls who just withdraw so that they won’t get noticed. There will be all sorts of other reasons you may put it down to but the bottom line is that if your daughter’s inactivity corresponds with her sudden breast growth it is usually the case.
- A very obvious hunch which is usually attributed to the sudden growth spurt that happens, but is usually a way of drawing attention away from their chest area by curling the shoulders in and pushing the hips out.
- Standing with their arms crossed either over to cover or under to support their breasts
- Talk of changing some part of their body, mostly focussed on their breasts but can be any part of their body. Young women who become obsessed with surgery and research plastic surgery often are victims of some kind of body dysmorphia associated with their breasts.
- A hatred for their breasts
- Not wanting to change clothing in the company of peers
- Not wanting to get involved in any activities that involve changing clothes
I need to stress that I am not a psychologist, while I have a degree in Psychology from the University of Port Elizabeth, I am not qualified to make any assumptions based on any psychological process.
I have experienced this and I have seen many girls in the four years of bra fitting to make observations. I cannot stress enough how a well fitted, professionally measure bra can alter this situation and why mothers continue to overlook this is a mystery to me.
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5 Easy Check Points for Buying Your Daughter’s First Bra February 12 2014, 0 Comments
Buying underwear for your daughter may be challenging, however it does not have to be as traumatic as it was in my day (I will refer to this as the dark ages)
If your daughter is just starting to develop it may not be necessary to buy a complete support bra.
A bralet or small tank top may be enough to cover the breast tissue. It does not offer any support but may offer a second covering that will help your daughter discreetly cover her new development. Don’t make a big fuss of this; she may enjoy the added pretty accessory that just goes under her clothes.
It’s important to note that a good professional fitting will be a very good foundation for the rest of her life (a topic all on its own)
If your daughter has developed really quickly and there is evidence of her breasts getting bigger i.e. there is a genetic predisposition, it is advisable to go straight to a professional bra fitter who specialises in this. Research your fitter and make sure they are discreet and caring, the last thing you need is for your daughter to develop an insecurity based on someone’s inexperience.
You have arrived at a retailer to buy a bra for your daughter, where do you start?
- Measure your daughter before you arrive, if you need help you can go to www.lizaclifford.com
- Know her dress or pants size: chances are if she wears a 32 her bra size will be smaller
- If the cup gapes but covers the bust area go smaller in the back i.e. 28, 30, 32, you may find that if you have tried the smallest cup and it still gapes a smaller band is the only option
- All bras stretch, try to purchase a snug size rather than a comfortable fit.
- Know that this size may change every 3-6 months so be aware that this
Bra shopping with your daughter can be fun, it’s an exciting milestone. If you feel insecure about the event based on your passed experiences it will show. Get as much information as possible before you go and if you don’t find what you’re looking for chances are the store is out of stock, and not because your daughter has difficult breasts.